Education through school prepares us to be an adult in a increasingly complex and progressive society. We are prepared and enabled to make judgments and provide solutions. Unfortunately this prevailing sense of ‘Doing’, often means we sacrifice other natural sides to ourself. That of simply ‘Being’. There is no single right way to approach life – ‘Doing’ and ‘Being’ both have their place, However finding a balance can be difficult when there is so much pressure to move forward in our all areas of our life. Personal, professionally and economically there is a prevailing sense that to move forward we have to be ‘Doing’ .
Perhaps to be healthy we need to have balance in all things, but the middle way can be hard to find. Maybe by embracing a few short points and turning them into behaviours we can find this balance that leads to a happier more for-filling experience of life.
Automatic pilot instead of conscious choice.
Our Automatic pilot is very useful. It gets us were we need to be . So much of what we do becomes a force of habit which in many cases takes us away from the reality of an experience. It effects not only our actions but also out behaviour. Many learnt behaviours from being young become defacto ways of responding to stressful situations. It often runs on past experiences of fear and anxiety. The problems with running on automatic is that it robs us of choice, takes away our awareness of a situation. Mindfulness gives us back this choice. It allows us experience the true nature of the moment and make informed decisions as to how we really feel.
Analysing instead of sensing
We have become so good and analysing, process and conceptualising. We are taught not to take anything as it appears, but to scrutinise and question. Its a very handy skill in such a competitive world. However we are much more than just logical beings. Dependance on knowledge and intellectual analysis neglects our primary senses and powers of perception. Our sense’s allows us to experience the world as it truly is. By getting back in touch with our senses we are re-discovering ourselves. The rush of the world inevitably erodes our presence in the world.
Striving instead of accepting.
‘Doing’ often involves judging and comparing the world with how we would like it to be. Our attention becomes focused on the gap between how things are and how we want things to be. This can leave us with a deep sense of dissatisfaction and can cause us to take action that ultimately leads to unhappiness. Life can become a constant campaign for a level of perfection that can never happen. Being mode invites you to suspend this judgment, to stand aside and watch the world unfold in front of you, To approach a problem without pre-conception or fear.
Seeing thoughts as solid and real instead if treating them as mental events.
Our thoughts are not us. They are mental events much the same as the random currents and forces in the ocean. A mental event rises and then falls to be replace by something else. Through meditation we can learn to observe our mind. We can see and follow our thoughts and even learn to see humour in them. In ‘Doing’ mode. we often hold onto thoughts, seeking truth where there is none, and mistake them for reality. In ‘Being’ mode we learn to observe out thoughts and see them as they truly are.
Avoidance versus Approaching.
‘Doing’ mode forces us to avoid potential areas of trouble. This is of course natural and in many circumstances very helpful. But avoidance can become a habit and start a path of fear and anxiety. We don’t develop complexes about reality, but about experiences that consume our imagination. We begin to act out in our imagination the things we fear the most. ‘Being’ mode encourages us to approach difficult experiences in a friendly and gentle way. To develop an a compassionate interest in the pain, fear and sadness, Compassion dissipate the power of negative feelings.
Mental time travel versus remaining in the present moment.
Memories and the ability to use them to plan is vital to our lives. But they are heavily influenced by our prevailing mood. Under stress we tend to remember the bad things and it becomes difficult to reflect on the good. Thinking about the future is influenced by similar emotions. Thinking ahead often produces feelings of fear and anxiety. We RELIVE past events and RE-FEEL their pain. We PRE-LIVE future disasters an PRE-FEEL their impact. Through mindfulness and meditation we can train our mind to observe these events and bring us back to the present. There is only one true moment and that is NOW.
Depleting versus nourishing activities.
In ‘Doing’ mode we easily get caught up in activities that keep us in our mind. So much mind time is spent on the future and how it can be influence for the better. We can get trapped in the future striving to solve problems that don’t exist and may never exist. An unbalanced life depletes us and take away our sense of self. ‘Being’ mode helps us to understand and see the activities that nourish us, and the things that deplete us.
Mindfulness make us more skilful with life.